I have done some very interesting reading, into the science and effects of dopamine and oxytocin. And the importance of bonding with our children.
Family bonding time is the quality time you spend with your family, doing things you love.
Families who share everyday activities together form strong, emotional ties. Studies have found that families who enjoy group activities together share a stronger emotional bond as well as an ability to adapt well to situations as a family.
Family Bonding Activities
Remember the focus is to spend time together. Pick one that appeals to your family’s specific interests.
- Movie night
- Family dinner
- Board games
- Nature walks
- Camping in the garden
- Watching a sunset
- Reading together
Find what works for you!
- Complete homework before participating.
- Turn off electronics – except of course the TV if its movie night.
- Don’t bring work home.
Record Deep Bond Moments
People forget most of their childhood and are reminded by photos and videos. Most are about activities we did together, like going to the beach or hiking in the mountains. And although these are good things to do, they aren’t enforcing what is most important about our family relations during childhood:
Our deep bond moments!
Instead of posed group shots, photograph, or film deep bond one-on-one moments:
- When a parent or grandparent is giving a hug
- When siblings are showing affection
- Take pictures of them playing together
- Scenes where its obvious how much fun they’re having together
One-on-one is important, and a record of this helps both in the picture because they know they were part of the joy. If you can, you can feel the warmth and love if it’s obvious the kids were unaware they were displaying their closeness. A picture like this has amazing power, especially for the younger brother.
This reminds him, like when he is a teen struggling with identity issues that he always had a strong bond with his big brother.
Why is this Important?
These bonds are important because they dampen the impact of life setbacks and help us heal quickly from hurt. Keep recording these moments when they’re teenagers, they need to be reminded that you loved them through this difficult part of life.
Try to capture those moments of true connection and joy. As they grow older, particularly during the tough teen years, periodically show them to remind them of the deep relationships and safety that they have at home.
If you didn’t record these moments when your kids were younger…
That’s OK. You can reminisce about those times and tell them what happened. Tell them how you used to chase them around the house like a lion. Tell them how you used to play football with them in the back garden. Use the power of oral stories.
You may already have these types of photos and videos, but they are lost among the flood of other pictures.
Find them and put them into a book or album or mark them in some way.
The most important takeaway is that you want to find ways like photos, videos or storytelling to remind them of the close relationships they had surrounding them as they grew up.
I love photographing these moments most of all!
I would love to be invited to capture you content and relaxed, surrounded by those you love.
If you would like to read more like this; take a look at the Quieting the Noise series:
Why is Photography Important?
I’ve read that children feel safe, welcome, seen and loved if there are images of themselves in the family home. I love this idea and think this is something every family needs to know.
You see stories, memories and keepsakes are important. Life is short. Our humanity is what makes us beautiful. The light will never look or be seen the same again and neither will we.
We will never have this moment again.
So, let’s capture it!