Louis is my eldest son. He’s a quiet soul, but with an admirable inner strength. He also has a popularity among his peers I would have envied as a child. I love my boy.
I, probably like a lot of you watched ‘The Social Dilemma’. If you haven’t I really recommend you do. I will admit it scared me and left me a little conflicted. Worried about the effect of technology on my children and my own tech addiction. Something my Mam had been warning me of for years. Something I brushed off as a generation thing. But as a photographer who shares a lot online, I was and still am often torn.
Growing up, like a lot of us, I often worried what others thought. Trying desperately to fit in, but still wanting to be unique.
So when I had children of my own I was passionate about allowing them to be themselves. I’m the same with the children and families I am lucky enough to spend time with.
Now, Louis is a confident footballer and competent sportsman. But he can be shy until he feels comfortable. He is growing up, too fast for my liking. And becoming more aware of the online world. He has now requested I no longer post his image.
Respecting his Choices
As a parent, I am proud of this autonomy. As a photographer and memory keeper. I can’t help feel a pant of disappointment.
Now as a documentarian I want to show authentic family life. So, I have had to come up with ever more creative ways to include him in personal images I share. While still respecting his choices.
From this I get to capture images of him and have his agreement to share those without his face. I’ve interestingly noticed this has brought about a confidence around my camera.
What confidence building tricks have you tried with your kids?